• Know your place. You are a mistress involved in infidelity with a married man, which means you are not his wife. He may tell you he loves you more than he could ever love his wife but do not take that seriously because in essence, men are very good liars.
• Valentine’s Day, New Year’s, Christmas, and the man’s birthday should be given up because the man is entitled to spend those days with his wife and family, not you.
• Never patronise a place of business that his wife is likely to frequent such as her favourite salon, jewellery store, clothing boutique, or spa. Also, avoid going to the same church where she hears mass.
• Avoid your man’s driver (if he has one) but become friends with the secretary—unless you are his secretary. Whether you are the wife or the mistress, you can treat the secretary as a source of information on where your man is going and who he is with.
• When having a marital affair, don’t call him. Also, being seen together in public is always risky. Because you are engaging in forbidden love, it should be hidden from prying eyes. Be discreet in your relationship. Never complain about anything. Do not travel with him. Never ask him for any money.
• Do not badmouth the wife and do not believe it whenever he is ranting about his wife to you.
• Remember that his wife has friends who could spy on you, so it also makes sense that you should have your own friends and spies. Still, do not take a chaperone while you are on a date with your man because they may blab.
• Send the man home if he has been hanging around your place for too long a time already.
• Never make an enemy out of your man’s children.

• Never cry in front of him and use your tears as a way to make him stay with you. Wives cry and they nag, so as a mistress on an illicit encounter, you do not want to do that.

• Stop thinking that you will be his wife someday.

• If you are a mistress, you only have half a life while the man who has you is living a double life. Get a career or take up a hobby to keep you busy.
• Do not give him gifts.

• If you are doubtful, just leave him.

Bored by the monotony of his day to day life Mr X had always wondered what it would be like to have an extra marital affair. He had tried the normal office flirting in an effort to get some interest but apart from a very brief fumble at a Christmas party he was a bit on the side virgin.

So having heard about adult dating sites he decided to sign up and see what was available. He put together a profile careful not to give too much away, assumed a false name, a false address and even a disguised photo. If he did find a play mate he could always exchange pictures at a later date.

The process started and soon Mr X found that there were a number of females that wanted uncomplicated sex with no strings attached. After a couple of months of non committal winks and emails one particular girl took his fancy. Wow was his first impression 27, blonde and her profile picture looked as if it belonged in playboy magazine and best of all she had winked at him first.

Over the next couple of weeks Mr X communicated regularly with Zoe each time the tone becoming more suggestive and explicit.  He wanted her desperately she had sent him more pictures of her in various states of undress with enough covered to make his imagination work over time.

Then came the proposition, she wanted to meet him and suggested a rather swanky hotel in London. Just like something off the movies Zoe suggested he get a room and txt her the number.

Over the next seven days Mr X then began the process of deception in an effort to convince his wife that he was staying away on business the following week. He even enrolled the help of a work colleague to ring up and drop the fact into conversation with his wife. It was perfect his wife suspected nothing all he could think about was a night of sex with a complete stranger.

Arriving early Wednesday evening he checked into the hotel suite, purchased a bottle of expensive champagne and forwarded the room number. She replied instantly.

8 o’clock and a knock on the door, this was going to be the best night of his life. Like a nervous school boy on a first date he inched towards the door and started the reveal. What happened next took him by complete surprise the sudden pain from a blow to the face caused him to fall backwards. All he could see was stars but as they started to clear the horror of the situation was all to real as there standing over him was his wife.

The moral of this story is clear an illicit affair sounds great but you must be careful. On this occasion Mr X had not shut his laptop down correctly and his wife gained access to his open account details.

Fuck buddies let you get all the sex you want without the baggage and responsibility of full-on affairs. If you are interested in finding a “buddy” but still confused? Then you need to read this guide. We’ll tell you everything you need to know in navigating the casual sex dating world.

What exactly is a “F Buddy”?

Sexual partners who do each other on a regular basis but do not have the usual emotional attachments of the traditional boyfriend/girlfriend set up are f buddies.  To have a F Buddy means to have someone you can use purely for sexual gratification, usually a booty call or quickie. This “no attachment” system is usually an open affair – that is, each partner is allowed to seek relationships with others.

Should you get an F Buddy?

Only you can tell whether or not this type of relationship is right for you. Being (or not being) an F Buddy is a very personal decision. Among the great things about no strings dating is that you can enjoy the thrill of having a passionate fling with a person that you might not normally date, but would like to “try.”  By being open to becoming an F Buddy, you can hook up with someone with whom you have nothing in common except incredible sexual chemistry. Because having an F Buddy can often feel like having an illicit affair, you get to feel a little naughty, play out your fantasies, and cut loose from your usual world.

What happens when the passion fizzles out?

Like anything disposable, your F Buddy may soon become boring in your eyes. Sex becomes routine, and you want out. To avoid any complications towards the end of this short, no-strings affair, set your limits from the very start. Be clear about what you want, what you can provide, and what you cannot provide. Talk openly about your expectations to avoid misunderstandings. Many f buddies stay friends. Some even become f buddies for life. It really depends on your perspective. If you feel any kind of weirdness, don’t force the friendship. You have enough friends, anyway.

When is it time to get out?

The whole point of having a F Buddy is to have fun. When the relationship starts to make you feel used or abused, it’s time to say goodbye.  Sadly, many people who go into no-strings dating are selfish and immature. Once you see signs of this on your partner, get out the door. Put an end to the affair, no matter how good the sex is.

What if you fall in love?

The biggest flaw of the F Buddy system is that it involves two human beings who have feelings – and in anything that involves the exchange of bodily fluids, emotions play a part. What if only you fall in love with your F Buddy but he/she does not reciprocate? The best thing to do is to be honest about it. For all you know, your partner might be feeling something for you, too. And if there’s really nothing there, at least you can move on. Never deny your feelings, or you will just feel jealous and betrayed when you see your F Buddy with someone else.

Staying safe

There’s nothing safer than a loving, monogamous relationship, but if this type of set up is too boring for you, then follow your instincts and get a F Buddy. Just be sure that you protect yourself not just from the potential emotional pain that an abrupt end to the relationship might cause, but also from sexually transmittable diseases that may be passed on to you.
Condoms are still the best form of protection from almost all STD’s. Insist on using one. Keep in mind that when you have sex with your F Buddy, you are also – technically – having sex with all his/her other partners, and that these other partners might be carrying diseases. A condom is not 100% full proof, but is one of the best defences against deadly conditions like AIDS, to name a few.

Where do I find a F Buddy?

You can probably meet a willing F Buddy through friends of friends, but if you want to get out of your usual circle, go on line. Dating sites like Affairs and Dating.co.uk provide sections for people who are looking for casual dating in particular. Here you’ll meet many like-minded individuals who want no-strings dating, just like you.

With women, infidelity goes beyond just sleeping with someone else. Here are some of the things that ladies often classify as cheating.

Confiding in other ladies

Confiding in a woman is worse than sleeping with her and having a full-blown affair with her. If a man allows himself to emotionally connect with a woman other than his partner, that’s already considered like having a bit on the side. When he talks to her comfortably about things that he should be sharing with his partner, then that’s actually more hurtful than spending the night having sex with some woman he just met at a bar or in the street.

Dancing

There’s nothing wrong with dancing with another woman but if you dance too close to that lady to the point that you’re already rubbing your crotch against her, that’s already counted as an illicit affair. If a man does that to someone else, his partner tends to think of it as desiring that other woman in the same way that he desires her.

Provocative flirting

Even joking around provocatively with the receptionist at your office can be counted as a form of illicit affair. If you have this ongoing sexual conversation with some other girl, your girlfriend or your wife might consider it a form of betrayal. There’s nothing wrong with innocent casual flirting but when there’s the intent of eventually turning the flirting into reality, then it’s a different story.

Going to a Lap Dancing Club

There are some women who classify this as cheating but a lot of women don’t. The real problem actually comes up when the guy pays to mess around with a stripper. If a man has to go to a strip joint to get some action, then there’s something awfully wrong with the relationship.

Cyber Sex

Apparently, a lot of women think that cyber sex and on-line casual dating is definitely to be considered cheating. Masturbating while you’re getting on the Net is actually even worse. For most women, it hurts to find their man getting it on with some faceless girl on the internet.
Any form of sexual contact
This is the most expected form of cheating. If you kiss, caress or go down with another woman, you’re cheating. Any form of sexual contact – and that includes oral sex – is a form of extra marital affair.

Threesome action

They were a married couple: Gabriel and Angela. Both were around 30, living in a middle class community, and perhaps nobody would ever think that they are both sexually adventurous like me. They looked like your typical young, happily married couple with a business that involved selling religious items (of all things).

It was the husband that I met first through this website. The two of us had our share of illicit encounters for almost 2 months before he suddenly introduced me to his wife. I was quite surprised when his wife revealed that she encouraged him to find somebody as sexually promiscuous as they were on the internet, in the hopes that they would find someone to do a threesome with. Apparently, I passed their expectations with flying colours.

I was invited over to their home for lunch but there was no time for any meals. Angela had a wonderful body for a 30-year old woman. She was quite beautiful, with angelic features that could deceive. What I loved most about her were her breasts, which were still perky, naturally large, and bouncy. Her lips were also divine. It got that rose pink shade. Whenever she came her toes would curl as she tilt her blonde hair back while groaning with pleasure.

There was also something about the way she would kiss, lick, and finger me. She immediately knew where to put her hands, mouth, and fingers on my body, as if she had known where my pleasure points were all along. Maybe Gabriel told her about them already; or maybe, as a fellow woman, she just knew. As for Gabriel, our many illicit encounters together proved him to be a natural in lovemaking. It excited me to watch him and his wife kissing, caressing, and exploring each other’s bodies as I watched and masturbated in one corner before they decide to invite me to join them again. In my mind, I thought they were the perfect couple and secretly wondered if I could ever be the same with my future husband.

Gabriel and Angela continued to summon me back to their home for about 2 to 3 times a week and this went on for almost a year. They even invited me to join them for a cruise along the Caribbean, where we continued to embark on our illicit encounters with one another. It was fun having a threesome with them. They made me realise that I am capable of being this adventurous.

The only problem was that they became competitive on who could pleasure me more, which  eventually lead to Gabriel being extremely jealous when he realised that I was obviously more attracted to his wife than to him.

I thought Angela tasted better than Gabriel and she was able to satisfy me more than he could.

But the pressure was mounting. It was stressing me out. I just wanted dirty sex. Do they really have to be so childish? I eventually cut ties with them, as I didn’t want to be the cause of their fighting. I went on to find other illicit affairs also here in AffairsAndDating.co.uk. I forgot about them.

Until….A few months later, I received an online note from Angela saying that she and Gabriel had separated. She said she wanted to see me…that she needed a shoulder to cry on I knew what she was up to, and I was right.

Angela and I agreed to meet at a budget hotel one afternoon. It was near the house where she and Gabriel once lived.

The moment we entered our room, she grabbed me in an embrace and enveloped my mouth in a hungry, passionate kiss. There were no words spoken between in the six hours we spent together in that dark and musky room. All we did was to fondle, finger, and explore each other. We gave each other multiple orgasms until we were both sleepy. I suddenly remembered that I had a date with a guy named James that night, so I left as she dozed off. And as if I haven’t had enough sex with Angela, I still insisted on doing the deed with my new date.

I never saw Angela or Gabriel again, as there were far too many other people looking for sex online – and I wanted to meet as many as I could. But I remember them all to this day – and I remember the pleasures they gave me.

Sometimes I think I see them; in the grocery store, in the restaurant, in the museum. But I made no big deal about these encounters. I have had my fill of sex and pleasure from them, and I am not the type of girl who would reminisce about the past and wonder about the “what might-have-been” or the “what could-have-been.” It is always the sex that I am after, not the companionship and definitely not love. No, not right now. I prefer to date multiple individuals and have sex with different people. Different flavours, different smells….

In my mind I have a database of people I have fucked. I choose an image and imagine the hot sex we had when I am alone and touching myself. My experiences with Saul, Veronica, Angela, and Gabriel were still the most memorable, but I am always looking for new people to top them. I need my sexual desires satisfied. I am still a member of AffairsAndDating.co.uk…and I just might meet you in here.

I’m a web whore, I admit. I was actually a member of 10 different internet dating sites, and some of them match singles to “promote lasting relationships.” What a bunch of ****. I just preyed on the hopeful men (and women) in those sites, and hooked up with everyone I fancied. Unfortunately, there were at least 4 or 5 of them who expected more from the sex. I found that rather strange. When did people get so needy and clingy? You won’t believe how many guys were looking forward to settling down, and they were serious about using internet dating to find a wife. What??

Do not get me wrong — I think I may want to settle down in the future. However, I am only 23 and I am enjoying the fruits of my career as a freelance copywriter. I just want to enjoy life and sex without having to be in love. I have been there before—I had a boyfriend in high school and our relationship went on for many years, even through university. But all that time, I was bored – and I acted out. He had NO CLUE that I was hooking up with a few of his friends just to get the sex I crave. A few weeks before graduation, I finally admitted that I needed to be free so I can enjoy life while exploring myself. Internet dating has given me a lot of opportunities to fulfil those goals.

I just want dirty sex – Is that too much to ask?

I had to bailed out of the internet dating sites that specialized in helping people who are looking for “lasting relationships.” Those sites were no good. They could not give me the fun that I needed with no strings attached.

My favourite internet dating site is AffairsAndDating.Co.Uk. What I like about this site is the fact that it is an internet dating site for men and women like me who are looking for illicit encounters. The people I have been meeting there know that there are no strings attached to our encounters.

The best sex I have ever had

I have been hooking up with at least 2 to 3 men per week through AffairsAndDating.Co.Uk. Most of the men come from different backgrounds; some of them are bored married men. Probably the best one that I ever encountered from this internet dating l was a 27-year old man named Saul.

He was about 6’3” tall but quite skinny for his height. Anyone who ever saw him immediately thought that he was a loser… but not me. I was attracted to his large dark brown eyes that seemed to pierce through my soul each time they looked at me. He also had some zits, but that did not bother me. I loved his eyes, his voice when he spoke, the way he kissed me, and the way he made love to me. He had an interesting background, too. Saul is the only son and heir of a corporate mogul from the US and he stayed in London for the sake of finishing an MBA degree. Our illicit encounters started when I saw his profile in the website and I immediately contacted him with a simple “hi”.

Saul and I met a few hours later after that. I guess it was fortunate that his apartment was close to mine. We stayed in his place and I could not count the number times I had an orgasm while he was making love to me.

Despite his skinny frame, his penis was really long and thick, and I enjoyed every moment when it was inside me and pleasuring me. Having his big penis inside me was one of the best feelings in the world.

I loved his slow yet hard thrusts and the way he held me in his arms. He had a strong grip, something you would not expect from a skinny man like him. I also loved his lips and his mouth, especially whenever he would use them to explore my body.

We continued hooking up on the following nights ahead but at the same time, I was also seeing other guys – sometimes immediately after having sex with Saul. I just can’t get enough. But, nothing could beat Saul’s penis. There were many times when I would imagine the other men I was shagging were Saul just to reach a really big orgasm.

Saul and I had the perfect illicit affair. I did not care if he hooked up with other women as long as he had time to spare to have sex with me with no strings attached. After our first 2 nights together, he gave me the keys to his apartment so I can freely go and visit him whenever I needed to be satisfied. I abused that opportunity to have sex with him as often as I want. It reached a point when I realized that  I was beginning to rely on him for a good time, but I did not care. After all, it was all for the sex and nothing more.

It was fun while it lasted. Our short yet memorable illicit encounters lasted until he had to leave already to go back to the United States. We never talked again after our last night together and after saying our last goodbyes. Saul was like an addiction. I immediately missed him and I started searching for other men who could fill the void that he had left. I knew I had to find other men who could surpass Saul’s skills in bed or I would not be able to feel satisfied. I looked for sexual encounters with people from the internet habitually, and I ended up dating two or more men every week.

The woman who gave me the greatest pleasure

Saul was undoubtedly the best penis I’ve ever had. And the best pussy, you ask? That would have to be a woman who actually pretended to be a man when she joined the dating site. I should have known from observation and from what I have been hearing from other internet users that not everything you see on the web is true. People lie about their gender and other aspects about themselves. But I didn’t care.

Her name was Veronica, a redhead with really pale skin and blue eyes. She had a few freckles spreading across her cheeks, crossing the upper bridge of her nose. She was very cute. She was a bit taller than me at 5’9” and she liked wearing high heels, which made her tower more over me. She was a waitress in a local pub, a place that also served as one of the more convenient meeting places for men I have met on the internet (it was discreet and the food was okay).

Veronica asked me to meet her in that pub. Her name was “Martin” when she first introduced herself as a man on the internet. Just imagine my surprise when this sexy lady approached me instead, and admitted that she was a lesbian looking for sex. I was surprised, but I did not have the urge to run away. There was just something about Veronica that made me want to experience what it was like making love to a pretty redhead like her.

So, the two of us made our way out of the pub and went to her place, just a couple of blocks from it. It was a small apartment but to me, it was very inviting. We had a few glasses of wine first as she told me about herself. It was pretty boring. I never shared anything about myself throughout the duration of the conversation. As she spoke, all I could ever think about was how sex was going to be like with her.

I observed the contours of her body from her breasts down to her legs. I imagined the things that I could do with her. I was immediately turned on at the thought of her red lips trailing kisses along my body, and her tongue licking that sensitive spot between my legs.

But before I could make her do those things, I had to make her stop talking first. I put my glass on the red coffee table and slowly leaned forward to give her a kiss. That shut her up. I was there for some lovin’, not babblin’.

It was first time to ever make love a woman, but I never held back. The mere touch of her fingers were enough to hurl my sanity overboard. Her lips were softer than a man’s, her scent much more strong. Her touch was gentler, which kept me begging for more. The way she giggled every time I nibbled on her skin, lips, earlobe, or breast just sent blood rushing to my wet pussy. She returned the favour, fondling my breasts or my vagina ever so gently. I never knew a woman could get me sooo aroused.

Veronica was a wonderful lover. We continued to hook up continuously for about five months, but of course I still had illicit encounters with men when I was not seeing her. However, I started to grow tired of the woman-on-woman action. I needed to be fucked hard.

Besides, Veronica got a little clingy. I realized that she was actually looking for a long-term commitment.  That was when I bailed out and refused to see her again without explaining why. She was upset when we parted ways, and I never saw her again.

In all my illicit encounters, I never told anybody where I lived, where I worked, what I did with my life, and my contact details. Doing so would be like inviting trouble to my doorstep – especially when it comes to sex with married men who have jealous or psycho wives, and of course, the clingy and stalker-like types.

Veronica introduced me to another side of myself that I never knew I had. I have had illicit encounters with other women after her…and I am still actively having sex with women. These lesbian encounters may not have been as pleasurable as my encounters with that pretty redhead, but they were enough to satisfy my immediate needs for sex especially when a man was unavailable. I just have to have my fill.

(TO BE CONTINUED)

How You Look

They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I guess for men it is their most primitive instinct linked to their urge to mate but what part does beauty play in this? Research has shown that men are naturally attracted to women not necessarily by their looks but more by their perceived view that the person is capable bearing children. Obviously we can not expect men to possess the skills to know if this is possible but in general terms they are looking for their new partner to be healthy. So if you want to attract a partner you need to glow, eat well and look fertile. Yes men love big breasts and shapely hips, which not all women have, but unfortunately both are indications they one day you may be that perfect mother.

How You Smile

Men like to be with women who make them feel good, and when you smile you’re telling him that you like him. Being with a person who has a great body may be his dream but if she has a poker (excuse the pun) face she will make him miserable. There is nothing better than a dazzling smile backed up by good dental hygiene is another signal that you’re healthy. Men consistently rate a great smile and a pretty face over a smoking hot body!

Eye Contact

Good eye contact as with a smile shows that you are confident and interested. Break the ice with that sneaky look then back that up with a beaming smile. I heard an expert once say that you should use the rule of 3. Catch his attention with a look, if he looks again use the smile and when he looks again get your coat because you have pulled!

Your smell

Often underrated but you’re the most attractive when you smell fertile. Men being the animals that they are will be attracted by your smell or conversely instantly put off. If you smell fresh and inviting the chances are that he will just want to nestle into the comfort of your body and stay there all night. I won’t go into detail but again research has shown that women give off a natural smell from the time between the first day of menstruation and of ovulation. So bottle it and you will be fighting them off

Finally Your Personality

Some would say this is the most important asset you can have although I have put it at the bottom of my list because normally you have to attract your male before he can get to know your personality. Sorry for yet another quote… a very short, not that attractive film star when asked how he managed to pull so many beautiful women said “I made them laugh all the way to my bed”.  So be happy, be attentive, be interesting and above all be natural.