So what does free sex mean, what are you looking for and how easy is it to find it?

If you look at the average adult dating site today the main motivation to join is to find likeminded people who are not afraid of confessing in intimate details what they are looking for. Their drive is predominately sex and plenty of it but not necessarily with the same person what they are seeking is uncomplicated sex with no strings attached. Having made the assumption that we can find sex on these adult sites is it actually Free Sex.

To answer this our first consideration has to be the alternatives that do involve paying for sex and we all know what this is. In The Secret Diary’s Of A Call Girl, Billy Piper plays a high class prostitute satisfying the needs of men from all back grounds. Now I am sure that some men have experiences of drunken stag do’s in Amsterdam, some have may be able to recount tails similar to Belle de jure…..the rest will be a fantasy. One thing is certain this is not free sex quite the opposite I am sure it can turn out rather expensive.

So a call girl is not an option so where else can I look for free sex..well I could adopt the traditional approach to dating and seek encounters in pubs, clubs etc but here is the catch. I for one never had the type of face where a beautiful girl would drag be off for unbridled passion. I have always had to work for it and that normally meant at the very least providing copious amounts of alcohol or an expensive meal, hardly free sex.

So we have gone full circle back to the adult dating sites and I can confirm that they work. I have had nights where I have met up with girls first for a few drinks, I have even spent quite a bit of money on a couple of dates but I have also had my share of free sex.

Values may have changed for some for better of for worse but in my experience consenting adults know what they want and some do not want the complications of relationships. The transaction is free agreed by both parties and long may it continue

Read on and be enlightened.

The right time to talk over the phone

A common question that guys have when it comes to casual flirting on the internet is this:  When exactly is the “right” time to move the conversation from the chat room to the telephone? The answer is really simple. You shouldn’t wait too long to start a phone conversation. A lot of men are reluctant about asking for a woman’s number through the internet. Adult dating through cyberspace makes it more difficult to get ladies on the telephone due to the high possibility of rejection. After all, this is going to be a move beyond the woman’s comfort zones and phone conversations are just a few steps away from meeting you in person.
But there are ways to ask a woman on the internet for her phone number. For instance, if you feel that she’s having fun talking to you, you can probably say something like, “I have to go now but let’s talk later in the day over the phone like normal people do.”
A lot of women don’t really talk to the guys they meet through casual dating sites. If you get this answer, there really is nothing that you can do to make her give you her number. This is why you have to ask for it as soon as you feel that the lady is comfortable talking to you. You have to find out sooner instead of later.

Liking two girls on the internet at the same time – How should you deal?

When looking around the internet, it’s probably normal to have affairs with more than one lady. But eventually, you will have to decide which one you would like to pursue a more personal adult dating relationship with. Some guys, however, decide to stay single and keep dating both ladies.

If you’re aiming for a relationship by visiting casual dating sites, you need to pick one that you like better and start going out with her regularly. If you’re not ready to get tied down yet, you don’t need to see either frequently.

There really is no problem with having two or more women liking you, but you have to be upfront with everything and make sure that the women don’t feel like you’re having an affair or something while you’re dating them. You have to make it clear that you’re still casually seeing a lot of women because you’re not ready for a relationship yet.

Then there is the fact that divorce has also lost its social stigma. No one cares if you get divorced these days. While cheating didn’t really cause that – at least, not directly – it is something that has worked in favour of the cheater. What is more interesting is that illicit affairs are no longer activities that are largely common among men. Even ladies, bored housewives, in particular, are indulging in affairs these days.

If you get caught straying, it isn’t such a big deal any more. While adultery is still considered a criminal offence in some states, the punishments are but expectations and not rules. The worst that you can get in consequence to having a bit on the side is more on the moral aspect – something that isn’t even a priority for cheaters in the first place.

Here are some of the interesting facts that you probably don’t know about cheating.

Women have a higher predisposition to cheat when ovulating

Cheating in women doesn’t seem to be a random event. During ovulation, women feel sexier and are more apt to be more particular with their appearance. This fact makes sense considering that in order to propagate; she has to be at her most flirtatious and fertile at the same time. Studies show that female fertility is directly linked to a heightened interest in males.

When it comes to cheating, men are better

Men are still leaders when it comes to cheating. They tend to do better at infidelity than women probably because of the insecurity that men have to deal with in the battle of the sexes. Unhealthy doses of jealousy and suspicion in males have also led to a higher tendency of being better at keeping the casual flings and extramarital affairs.

Cheating is not clearly defined

Interestingly, while cheating and infidelity have been around for centuries, there are no direct definitions on what constitutes the act. The variety in definition has also led to increasing cases of adultery affairs. Researchers, clinicians and even couples find it difficult to agree on which set of behaviours constitute cheating.

Yes, it may seem that I have it made. My husband’s thriving business allows me and my family to experience a comfortable life. I got married at a young age, straight out of school, so you can probably say that being a housewife was the only occupation I ever knew and thankfully, I’m quite good at it.

My days are mostly spent being mum and wife, feeding hubby and the kids, and keeping house. Everything is just perfect.

But the problem with “perfect” is that it gets boring. Because I married early, I never really experienced what it was like to have fun. After sending the kids to school, my husband to the office and sorting out the daily chores, I still have a lot of time to spare within the day before all hell breaks lose again at the arrival of my children from school in the afternoon. My husband is always busy with work so he tends to stay out late. We still have sex occasionally but things are not the same since having the kids. And it’s not even like we have ever been adventurous in that respect. If I ever have to describe what sex with my husband is like, it would have to be straightforward. It was good and all but sometimes, I find myself wanting something more exciting than the usual. It simply wasn’t enough that I was faking orgasms more frequently than ever.

Internet was probably heaven’s gift to bored housewives like me. I started lurking around the web a few years ago. Everything started innocently enough I used to go online for emails, shopping and the like. Last year, I stumbled into this odd chatroom and then found myself getting directed to Affairs and Dating and I haven’t moved anywhere since then.

The site was great; I realized that I’m not the only person within a fifty-mile radius of my home who has too much time in her hands. I met new and interesting friends. Some of them live in the same area while many are from other cities. The conversations shocked me at first but after a while I’ve grown to enjoy my time online. Most of the stuff that people asked was really naughty. Some were outright in their desire to play around in person.

At the back of my mind, I knew that there was probably something wrong with what I was doing. But I was having the time of my life. When I’m on the site, I forget that I’m just a housewife. To the men that I get to talk to, I’m sexy, attractive and desirable.

At first, I was only there to kill time with innocent cyber flirting. After a while, things got naughtier that on the days when my kids are at school and my husband is at work, I took to playing with myself while chatting with a favourite ‘friend’ on the website.

This particular guy is probably one of the first people I met through Affairs and Dating. I still didn’t know much about him and frankly, I didn’t really care that much. All I knew was that he was funny and charming and naughty all at the same time. He looked through my profile on the site and obviously he loved what he saw so we got to talking. It just started with casual chats about how boring life has been until we got to ‘experimenting’ to make our lives just a little bit exciting.

So while everyone was out of the house for the day, I chatted with this guy who lives miles away. It’s so interesting how simple words can be such a turn on. He got naughtier and naughtier through the course of our chats. Most of the time, he made me do things that I wouldn’t even dare think about. I don’t know where he gets his ideas from but they worked. I can’t even count the many times I got off just by the way he talks and from the suggestions on how I should touch myself to enjoy this few hours of ‘playtime.’ He got me to chat with him naked. At some point, he even dared me to go through my household chores in the nude, which I refused as my neighbours will probably get a heart attack if they saw me through the windows with nothing but skin.

All of this transpired without my husband or my children ever noticing a thing.

That was probably the most exciting part. My husband never got a clue that I was being a naughty housewife while he was away at work. It’s like I was living two different lives and while I loved my family to distraction, I looked forward to my secret adventures in the chatroom while they are away.

Sadly, my favourite cyber friend had to move to another place and I didn’t hear from him since then for some reason. So now, I’m left, hanging around Affairs and Dating, waiting for the next exciting man to help me get through each boring day as a housewife.

I am now 25 and can honestly say that I have made up for a late start. I love the challenge, the chase is the best part but I have rules. There are too many women in the world to get tied down I want sex, simple no strings dating. One night stands are perfect although I have been known to go back for more if she was really good. Which leads me to the reason for the letter, I have tried a number of dating agencies but this is the first that allows members to vent their thoughts. Internet dating for me is the best and the reason is simple….you can find exactly what you are looking for and members are more than happy to describe what they want. No strings, no complications no long term relationships. A few jokes and couple of emails, then sex!!!

Thank you, the internet is a wonderful place, Give me more no strings dating.

But who always has the time for personal meet-ups or lazy lounges by the coffee shop when there are just so many things that need to be done? I don’t. And that was probably why internet dating worked well for me.

Why web dating is better

Just as with traditional dating, internet dating always starts with chance encounters but this time, the venue is the World Wide Web. Being mostly glued to the computer because of work, it became a convenient way of meeting new people and enjoying intelligent conversation without the pressure of looking physically good to the other person. While there’s still nothing like the person-to-person contact, internet dating offers a sturdy foundation for offline meet-ups. You already know the person you’re going to meet for coffee in a few weeks, at least up to some point. That beats the blind dates that your friends have so kindly set you up with based on a sometimes inaccurate perception of what type of guy would attract you the most.

Another good thing about internet dating is that it’s a less expensive way to meet interesting people. Let’s face it, when you have to meet somebody for a traditional date, you are always compelled to look your best. For me, that would mean getting new shoes, a new dress, and spending an hour or so trying to make myself presentable. I want to be at my best and that could cost more than time. With online dating, I can be in my pyjamas and nobody will mind. The guys I’m talking to either can’t see me, or can only see a nice picture of me.

On the other hand, this “anonymity” associated with internet dating can be somewhat risky. Being unable to see the guy you’re talking to makes it difficult to judge his personality. You can be talking to a weirdo or a pervert and you wouldn’t have a clue until you have talked to him for a long time.

But in retrospect, isn’t that the same with traditional dating?
Appearances may play a big role, but it is not enough. You cannot tell if a person is trustworthy just by looking at him. Dating as a whole has risks involved, particularly if you’re hooking up with somebody you barely know. Internet dating just makes you feel more compelled to know the person on a deeper level because you don’t have the benefit of physical contact to guide your instincts.

Stick to dating websites you can trust

How about having to shop for goods that are not available in your local community? Indeed, for most of us who grew up with the World Wide Web, it’s challenging to imagine doing certain activities without the internet. For some people, these activities include dating.
Traditional dating generally refers to meeting someone in person, going on dates, calling each other on the phone and talking face-to-face to learn more about each other. Today, the internet has changed the face of the dating world and many people cannot wonder if this is for better or for worse.

Breaking borders

One of the best things about online dating is that it allows you to get to know as many people as possible, or as many people who sign up for online dating. Before the internet, many people had a difficult time trying to look for other singles whom they can potentially date.
Basically, dating opportunities were limited to the people at your school or office, the men and women who hang out at the local bar and the blind dates and distant relatives that your friends and families introduce you to once in a while. Needless to say, this can be very limiting on your part. This means that your dating options are limited to your school mates, your office colleagues and the same old people you see in the same old bars. What if the love of your life lives two states away? Online dating allows you to find your perfect match, regardless of distance and location.

Getting to know each other

Before the internet, getting to know each other began right on the first date. You have to dress up, go all the way to the restaurant and spend time and money just to see if the person in front of your could be ?the one?. In some cases, people go home disappointed when they learn that they have absolutely nothing in common with their date. Not only did they waste their time and money and wore their good clothes for nothing; they also wasted the hope that they invested on a date.
With online dating, you are given the chance to know the person before the actual date so you can know right off the bat if you two will have something in common.

Internet dating certainly has its advantages, which is why you should become a member of AffairsandDating.co.uk now. You’ll meet many different people, get to know them online at first, and then go out on a traditional date with them should you establish a connection.

Threesome action

They were a married couple: Gabriel and Angela. Both were around 30, living in a middle class community, and perhaps nobody would ever think that they are both sexually adventurous like me. They looked like your typical young, happily married couple with a business that involved selling religious items (of all things).

It was the husband that I met first through this website. The two of us had our share of illicit encounters for almost 2 months before he suddenly introduced me to his wife. I was quite surprised when his wife revealed that she encouraged him to find somebody as sexually promiscuous as they were on the internet, in the hopes that they would find someone to do a threesome with. Apparently, I passed their expectations with flying colours.

I was invited over to their home for lunch but there was no time for any meals. Angela had a wonderful body for a 30-year old woman. She was quite beautiful, with angelic features that could deceive. What I loved most about her were her breasts, which were still perky, naturally large, and bouncy. Her lips were also divine. It got that rose pink shade. Whenever she came her toes would curl as she tilt her blonde hair back while groaning with pleasure.

There was also something about the way she would kiss, lick, and finger me. She immediately knew where to put her hands, mouth, and fingers on my body, as if she had known where my pleasure points were all along. Maybe Gabriel told her about them already; or maybe, as a fellow woman, she just knew. As for Gabriel, our many illicit encounters together proved him to be a natural in lovemaking. It excited me to watch him and his wife kissing, caressing, and exploring each other’s bodies as I watched and masturbated in one corner before they decide to invite me to join them again. In my mind, I thought they were the perfect couple and secretly wondered if I could ever be the same with my future husband.

Gabriel and Angela continued to summon me back to their home for about 2 to 3 times a week and this went on for almost a year. They even invited me to join them for a cruise along the Caribbean, where we continued to embark on our illicit encounters with one another. It was fun having a threesome with them. They made me realise that I am capable of being this adventurous.

The only problem was that they became competitive on who could pleasure me more, which  eventually lead to Gabriel being extremely jealous when he realised that I was obviously more attracted to his wife than to him.

I thought Angela tasted better than Gabriel and she was able to satisfy me more than he could.

But the pressure was mounting. It was stressing me out. I just wanted dirty sex. Do they really have to be so childish? I eventually cut ties with them, as I didn’t want to be the cause of their fighting. I went on to find other illicit affairs also here in AffairsAndDating.co.uk. I forgot about them.

Until….A few months later, I received an online note from Angela saying that she and Gabriel had separated. She said she wanted to see me…that she needed a shoulder to cry on I knew what she was up to, and I was right.

Angela and I agreed to meet at a budget hotel one afternoon. It was near the house where she and Gabriel once lived.

The moment we entered our room, she grabbed me in an embrace and enveloped my mouth in a hungry, passionate kiss. There were no words spoken between in the six hours we spent together in that dark and musky room. All we did was to fondle, finger, and explore each other. We gave each other multiple orgasms until we were both sleepy. I suddenly remembered that I had a date with a guy named James that night, so I left as she dozed off. And as if I haven’t had enough sex with Angela, I still insisted on doing the deed with my new date.

I never saw Angela or Gabriel again, as there were far too many other people looking for sex online – and I wanted to meet as many as I could. But I remember them all to this day – and I remember the pleasures they gave me.

Sometimes I think I see them; in the grocery store, in the restaurant, in the museum. But I made no big deal about these encounters. I have had my fill of sex and pleasure from them, and I am not the type of girl who would reminisce about the past and wonder about the “what might-have-been” or the “what could-have-been.” It is always the sex that I am after, not the companionship and definitely not love. No, not right now. I prefer to date multiple individuals and have sex with different people. Different flavours, different smells….

In my mind I have a database of people I have fucked. I choose an image and imagine the hot sex we had when I am alone and touching myself. My experiences with Saul, Veronica, Angela, and Gabriel were still the most memorable, but I am always looking for new people to top them. I need my sexual desires satisfied. I am still a member of AffairsAndDating.co.uk…and I just might meet you in here.

“I promise, Stella, it’s just gonna take an hour—max!” Shawna begged over our tuna sandwiches at lunch.

I was busy checking my email while chewing at the same time so I couldn’t exactly see Shawna’s begging face. Even so, I pretty much knew what it looked like—puppy dog eyes pucker lips and scrunched up eyebrows. After all, this was not the first time that Shawna asked me to do her a favour. Today, she was asking me to meet one of our clients—a painter—to talk about his upcoming exhibition at the local gallery. Our company handled the painter’s first exhibit a several months ago in a gallery in a nearby town and that event was a success so it’s not surprising that “Goody”, that’s the name of the artist, would want to work with us again.

“What’s in it for me?” I asked without taking my eyes off the computer screen.

Shawna swiveled in her chair at the cubicle right across mine. “Hmmm. Let’s see. How about a spa treatment over the weekend—my treat?”

“Try again.”

“Lunch for the whole week?”

“Nah.”

“Coldplay concert tickets?”

“Already got ‘em.”

“Drinks on Friday at that hot hot bar that just opened downtown?”

I thought for a moment. “Okay. You’re on.”

Shawna put her palms together and raised them in an exaggerated manner towards Stella. “Thank you, thank you, thank you. You’re a lifesaver.”

I crumpled her now-empty sandwich wrapper and threw in the wastebasket. “ I don’t know why you’d rather go shopping than meet with this guy if he’s as talented as you say he is.”

“Oh he is, he is. But you know me, my one true love is Roberto Cavalli,” Shawna quipped. “Besides, I might be doing you a favour right back. I heard he’s really hot”

***

It was almost seven when I finally asked the waiter to bring her bill. The meeting time with Goody was at six and I made it sure that I showed up on time at the cafe of the artist’s choice. Unfortunately, almost an hour has passed by and there was still no sign of the painter anywhere. Not that I would recognize him if he does show up. When the painter messaged her online, he just said he’ll be wearing a dark blue t-shirt and then told her to sit in the table nearest the bar so he can easily spot here.

During the first few minutes that I waited, I remembered how I always wanted to meet this particular painter but never had the time. During the last exhibit, I had been so busy putting everything in order—even after the exhibit—that I did not have enough energy to go to the intimate after-party with some of my colleagues and the painter. The longer I sat at the table, the more I looked forward to meeting the artist whose works I had admired. However, as six o’clock drew near, I became less and less of a fan of the artist and became more and more of an impatient event coordinator getting stood up by a client.

After two cappuccinos, I finally had enough. After paying my bill, I was just about to head to the door when someone strongly familiar entered.

My grip on my handbag tightened. It was David. David who was one of my younger brother’s best mates. David, who used to be an awkward gangly teenager showing up at our family’s house every weekend. David, who adolescence has turned into a raging hottie. David, with whom I had a one-night stand several months ago. And David, who I had just stopped thinking about not very long ago.

I watched motionlessly as David’s beautiful gray eyes scanned the room like a radar and purposefully landed on mine. He smiled. “Sorry I’m late.” He sat down at the table without waiting for me to sit back down. I forgot that I was supposed to be mad. My shock forced me to sit down across David.

“You’re—You’re Goody?”

David scanned the menu casually without looking at me. “In the flesh.”

I slowly reeled from this new information. “I—I mean, me and my team handled your last exhibit.”

“I know.”

“You knew I was part of that team?”

“Yup.”

“And you knew that I was gonna meet you here today?”

David finally looked at me. “I wasn’t even supposed to show up tonight. But when I got your email saying you’re substituting for your colleague, I decided to come. “ He smiled again. “What can I say, Stella? I haven’t been able to stop thinking about you since that night.”

***
It was Friday night and Sammy’s Night Club was packed. In one of the booths, me and Shawna were sitting sipping on their drinks, barely being able to talk above the noise of the talk and the loud music.

“I don’t get it, why did you tell him you were gonna be here if you didn’t want to see him?” Shawna asked after I told her the story about David and how he turned out to be Goody.

“I didn’t tell him,” I replied. “Well, I didn’t intend to. He was trying to ask me out tonight, and I said I had plans. He said he didn’t believe me, and I told him to go to hell, and he said I was lying. I got so pissed off that I told him the truth just to prove I wasn’t lying.”

Shawna looked at me. “ Look, it seems like you’re still affected with by this guy. Why don’t you just go out with him and talk?”

“Shawna, talking is not something that I tend to do with this guy, okay? It’s enough that he’s my brother’s friends, and it’s enough that we had–” I came to a sudden halt.

“Had what?” Shawna asked.

“Oh my god, it’s him,” I nodded towards to the door. Sure enough, there was David and he wasn’t alone. He had on his arm some leggy and busty blonde that looked like she stepped off the pages of Playboy. I became suddenly aware that I had no date whatsoever. But instead of feeling sad about the fact, I felt mad. What the hell was he doing here? Was he trying to ruin my night?

“Oh yeah, he is hot,” Shawna gasped.

“Hot enough to burn,” I said as I quickly stood up and marched towards his direction. Shawna said something but I was too far to hear.

David was just about to sit down when he saw me. “Stella,” he smiled.

“Can I speak to you for minute?” I got right down to the point.

David looked from me to the blonde and back again. “Well, um…”

I didn’t wait for him to make up his mind. I walked towards the door, out into the street and into a hidden alley just beside the building. David showed up in a few seconds.

“What the hell are you doing here?” I demanded before he can say a word.

David shrugged his broad sculpted shoulders. “Same thing you’re doing here. I’m here for the opening party.”

“That’s bullshit! You knew I was gonna be here and that’s why you showed up. You are so immature. Being my little brother’s friend and all, I’m not really surprised.”

He didn’t appreciate this remark because I noticed his cheeks flare up. “You didn’t think I was so little when were screwing in the bathroom.”

Now it was my turn blush furiously. “That meant nothing.”

“Then why are you still acting weird about it?”

I looked at him carefully. “I’m not one of your bimbos, David.”

He took a step towards me. “I know you’re not.”

“I’m not just some girl that you screw at a party and then tell your friends the next day.”

“I didn’t call you because I didn’t know what to say,” he took another step. “I mean, you’re my friend’s big sister. There was no way that you could’ve wanted to be with me.”

Even if these were the words that left his mouth, I slowly felt his breath on my mouth as he leaned in for a kiss. As our gentle kissing became more passionate and hurried, my back hit the wall of the alley as he pushed into me. His mouth travelled from my mouth to my neck as his hands reached under my dress to take off my knickers. Before I knew it, both my legs were wrapped around his back as he slammed into me again and again. The thought of someone walking by and seeing us made the whole thing even hotter. The thought of that ditzy blonde sitting waiting for him made it hotter as well. With the wall on my back and his mouth covering my scream, I came like I never did for a long time.

Later, when I was back at my own table and he was back with his date, we couldn’t help exchanging knowing glances.

(to be continued)