For John sex was all about numbers, he was not interested in long term relationships and regular sex with the same person, he wanted risk with no strings and he did not care who they were. The more illicit encounters the better, the thrill to him was the risk of getting caught whether it be by a husband, boyfriend or even by the fact that he had chosen a public place for his big performance.

To his friends John was great to be around but at the same time an anathema! When you were with John there were always plenty of girls and normally enough to go around but John had no morals and this led to major fall outs with indiscretions towards some of the girl friends of his best mates.

John was an addict and like all addicts he needed to feed his habit. Weekends were fine there were always willing girls to fall under his advances. Week days were different and as a result of an incident at work where a colleague had complained about being pestered he was given an official warning. The warning in itself John could live with but what this also resulted in was that all his female colleagues ignoring him for his Lotharios ways.

John was a broken man he was going cold turkey, sex was on his mind 24/7 and now he could not even flirt………until one Wednesday a young temptress arrived in the office for her first day. Within an hour he was able to get her attention two hours later they were united walking out of the office for the last time with the prospects of looking for a new job.

The sack did not come as a surprise to either of them being caught by the bosses wife having sex on the conference table was never going to go down too well but what John had not anticipated was learning that his latest conquest was every bit his match….Janet was a nymphomaniac who had been dismissed from her last job for similar sexual indiscretion……

1. Don’t do it in the house you share with your spouse or significant other. It may seem exciting to have extra marital affairs on your bed, but unless you want to get caught, you should never ever do this! Your spouse may find your lover’s hair on the pillows, or may smell your lover’s scent on the sheets. It’s just a bad idea. Get a motel room.

2. If you want to cheat in your car, do not forget to push the seat back to the position it was when your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend last sat on it. If the seat is leaning back, is pushed too far back, or pushed very close to the dashboard (because you were busy at the back), your spouse will suspect something and ask you else you had in the car.

3. Never bring your lover to places you bring your spouse to. There are plenty of restaurants and hotels, so please pick another one.

4. Don’t leave evidence, most people get caught in affairs because their spouse goes through their phone log and email logs. So always delete flirty texts and messages and always clear your call history. You can leave a few innocent-sounding messages in there so your spouse doesn’t suspect that you are covering your tracks. If you are sharing a computer with your spouse, always log out and delete history when you’re done.

5. Spend the same amount of time with your spouse as you did before. This way, he or she does not suspect that you are busy with something else.

6. Finally, wear protection. Adult Dating without a condom may get you into a lot of medical trouble. You may catch a disease and even pass it on to your spouse. That’s the messiest way to get caught cheating, so don’t even risk it. Wear a condom and be safe.

• Know your place. You are a mistress involved in infidelity with a married man, which means you are not his wife. He may tell you he loves you more than he could ever love his wife but do not take that seriously because in essence, men are very good liars.
• Valentine’s Day, New Year’s, Christmas, and the man’s birthday should be given up because the man is entitled to spend those days with his wife and family, not you.
• Never patronise a place of business that his wife is likely to frequent such as her favourite salon, jewellery store, clothing boutique, or spa. Also, avoid going to the same church where she hears mass.
• Avoid your man’s driver (if he has one) but become friends with the secretary—unless you are his secretary. Whether you are the wife or the mistress, you can treat the secretary as a source of information on where your man is going and who he is with.
• When having a marital affair, don’t call him. Also, being seen together in public is always risky. Because you are engaging in forbidden love, it should be hidden from prying eyes. Be discreet in your relationship. Never complain about anything. Do not travel with him. Never ask him for any money.
• Do not badmouth the wife and do not believe it whenever he is ranting about his wife to you.
• Remember that his wife has friends who could spy on you, so it also makes sense that you should have your own friends and spies. Still, do not take a chaperone while you are on a date with your man because they may blab.
• Send the man home if he has been hanging around your place for too long a time already.
• Never make an enemy out of your man’s children.

• Never cry in front of him and use your tears as a way to make him stay with you. Wives cry and they nag, so as a mistress on an illicit encounter, you do not want to do that.

• Stop thinking that you will be his wife someday.

• If you are a mistress, you only have half a life while the man who has you is living a double life. Get a career or take up a hobby to keep you busy.
• Do not give him gifts.

• If you are doubtful, just leave him.

One of course, you try to keep your marriage free of extra marital affairs. But once you encounter someone that makes you feel a number of emotions that have not risen to the surface for many years, you may eventually succumb to cheating. Interests and priorities change through time; that is why spouses sometimes look for someone new who will share these common interests.

Life is too short, as they say, and if you eventually decide to seize the opportunity of being unfaithful, that least you can do is to not get caught. In the end, even affairs do not last, but you still have your wife to go back to.

There are some ways in which you can enjoy illicit encounters with someone other than your spouse without ever getting caught. One of the basic things you have to remember is to never bring your lover to your house. Go dating and enjoy adult fun outside of the conjugal home. Of course, you should never go to the house of your lover yourself. If someone else catches you there, chances are, your spouse will get wind of it. Also remember to be discreet and to keep a low profile when you are out on a date with your lover. People who know you and know your spouse can see you, and this leads to messy business. Try setting up scheduled dates and in places where you are sure that no one will recognise you.

You can also do casual dating. This way, you will be sure that it is going to be quick and with no strings attached. You will be able to satisfy your boredom without your spouse suspecting a thing. It is also best to not leave a history on your computer or leave numbers on your mobile phone. Erase everything immediately, or do not use any computer or phone at home to be safer.

With women, infidelity goes beyond just sleeping with someone else. Here are some of the things that ladies often classify as cheating.

Confiding in other ladies

Confiding in a woman is worse than sleeping with her and having a full-blown affair with her. If a man allows himself to emotionally connect with a woman other than his partner, that’s already considered like having a bit on the side. When he talks to her comfortably about things that he should be sharing with his partner, then that’s actually more hurtful than spending the night having sex with some woman he just met at a bar or in the street.

Dancing

There’s nothing wrong with dancing with another woman but if you dance too close to that lady to the point that you’re already rubbing your crotch against her, that’s already counted as an illicit affair. If a man does that to someone else, his partner tends to think of it as desiring that other woman in the same way that he desires her.

Provocative flirting

Even joking around provocatively with the receptionist at your office can be counted as a form of illicit affair. If you have this ongoing sexual conversation with some other girl, your girlfriend or your wife might consider it a form of betrayal. There’s nothing wrong with innocent casual flirting but when there’s the intent of eventually turning the flirting into reality, then it’s a different story.

Going to a Lap Dancing Club

There are some women who classify this as cheating but a lot of women don’t. The real problem actually comes up when the guy pays to mess around with a stripper. If a man has to go to a strip joint to get some action, then there’s something awfully wrong with the relationship.

Cyber Sex

Apparently, a lot of women think that cyber sex and on-line casual dating is definitely to be considered cheating. Masturbating while you’re getting on the Net is actually even worse. For most women, it hurts to find their man getting it on with some faceless girl on the internet.
Any form of sexual contact
This is the most expected form of cheating. If you kiss, caress or go down with another woman, you’re cheating. Any form of sexual contact – and that includes oral sex – is a form of extra marital affair.

Threesome action

They were a married couple: Gabriel and Angela. Both were around 30, living in a middle class community, and perhaps nobody would ever think that they are both sexually adventurous like me. They looked like your typical young, happily married couple with a business that involved selling religious items (of all things).

It was the husband that I met first through this website. The two of us had our share of illicit encounters for almost 2 months before he suddenly introduced me to his wife. I was quite surprised when his wife revealed that she encouraged him to find somebody as sexually promiscuous as they were on the internet, in the hopes that they would find someone to do a threesome with. Apparently, I passed their expectations with flying colours.

I was invited over to their home for lunch but there was no time for any meals. Angela had a wonderful body for a 30-year old woman. She was quite beautiful, with angelic features that could deceive. What I loved most about her were her breasts, which were still perky, naturally large, and bouncy. Her lips were also divine. It got that rose pink shade. Whenever she came her toes would curl as she tilt her blonde hair back while groaning with pleasure.

There was also something about the way she would kiss, lick, and finger me. She immediately knew where to put her hands, mouth, and fingers on my body, as if she had known where my pleasure points were all along. Maybe Gabriel told her about them already; or maybe, as a fellow woman, she just knew. As for Gabriel, our many illicit encounters together proved him to be a natural in lovemaking. It excited me to watch him and his wife kissing, caressing, and exploring each other’s bodies as I watched and masturbated in one corner before they decide to invite me to join them again. In my mind, I thought they were the perfect couple and secretly wondered if I could ever be the same with my future husband.

Gabriel and Angela continued to summon me back to their home for about 2 to 3 times a week and this went on for almost a year. They even invited me to join them for a cruise along the Caribbean, where we continued to embark on our illicit encounters with one another. It was fun having a threesome with them. They made me realise that I am capable of being this adventurous.

The only problem was that they became competitive on who could pleasure me more, which  eventually lead to Gabriel being extremely jealous when he realised that I was obviously more attracted to his wife than to him.

I thought Angela tasted better than Gabriel and she was able to satisfy me more than he could.

But the pressure was mounting. It was stressing me out. I just wanted dirty sex. Do they really have to be so childish? I eventually cut ties with them, as I didn’t want to be the cause of their fighting. I went on to find other illicit affairs also here in AffairsAndDating.co.uk. I forgot about them.

Until….A few months later, I received an online note from Angela saying that she and Gabriel had separated. She said she wanted to see me…that she needed a shoulder to cry on I knew what she was up to, and I was right.

Angela and I agreed to meet at a budget hotel one afternoon. It was near the house where she and Gabriel once lived.

The moment we entered our room, she grabbed me in an embrace and enveloped my mouth in a hungry, passionate kiss. There were no words spoken between in the six hours we spent together in that dark and musky room. All we did was to fondle, finger, and explore each other. We gave each other multiple orgasms until we were both sleepy. I suddenly remembered that I had a date with a guy named James that night, so I left as she dozed off. And as if I haven’t had enough sex with Angela, I still insisted on doing the deed with my new date.

I never saw Angela or Gabriel again, as there were far too many other people looking for sex online – and I wanted to meet as many as I could. But I remember them all to this day – and I remember the pleasures they gave me.

Sometimes I think I see them; in the grocery store, in the restaurant, in the museum. But I made no big deal about these encounters. I have had my fill of sex and pleasure from them, and I am not the type of girl who would reminisce about the past and wonder about the “what might-have-been” or the “what could-have-been.” It is always the sex that I am after, not the companionship and definitely not love. No, not right now. I prefer to date multiple individuals and have sex with different people. Different flavours, different smells….

In my mind I have a database of people I have fucked. I choose an image and imagine the hot sex we had when I am alone and touching myself. My experiences with Saul, Veronica, Angela, and Gabriel were still the most memorable, but I am always looking for new people to top them. I need my sexual desires satisfied. I am still a member of AffairsAndDating.co.uk…and I just might meet you in here.

I’m a web whore, I admit. I was actually a member of 10 different internet dating sites, and some of them match singles to “promote lasting relationships.” What a bunch of ****. I just preyed on the hopeful men (and women) in those sites, and hooked up with everyone I fancied. Unfortunately, there were at least 4 or 5 of them who expected more from the sex. I found that rather strange. When did people get so needy and clingy? You won’t believe how many guys were looking forward to settling down, and they were serious about using internet dating to find a wife. What??

Do not get me wrong — I think I may want to settle down in the future. However, I am only 23 and I am enjoying the fruits of my career as a freelance copywriter. I just want to enjoy life and sex without having to be in love. I have been there before—I had a boyfriend in high school and our relationship went on for many years, even through university. But all that time, I was bored – and I acted out. He had NO CLUE that I was hooking up with a few of his friends just to get the sex I crave. A few weeks before graduation, I finally admitted that I needed to be free so I can enjoy life while exploring myself. Internet dating has given me a lot of opportunities to fulfil those goals.

I just want dirty sex – Is that too much to ask?

I had to bailed out of the internet dating sites that specialized in helping people who are looking for “lasting relationships.” Those sites were no good. They could not give me the fun that I needed with no strings attached.

My favourite internet dating site is AffairsAndDating.Co.Uk. What I like about this site is the fact that it is an internet dating site for men and women like me who are looking for illicit encounters. The people I have been meeting there know that there are no strings attached to our encounters.

The best sex I have ever had

I have been hooking up with at least 2 to 3 men per week through AffairsAndDating.Co.Uk. Most of the men come from different backgrounds; some of them are bored married men. Probably the best one that I ever encountered from this internet dating l was a 27-year old man named Saul.

He was about 6’3” tall but quite skinny for his height. Anyone who ever saw him immediately thought that he was a loser… but not me. I was attracted to his large dark brown eyes that seemed to pierce through my soul each time they looked at me. He also had some zits, but that did not bother me. I loved his eyes, his voice when he spoke, the way he kissed me, and the way he made love to me. He had an interesting background, too. Saul is the only son and heir of a corporate mogul from the US and he stayed in London for the sake of finishing an MBA degree. Our illicit encounters started when I saw his profile in the website and I immediately contacted him with a simple “hi”.

Saul and I met a few hours later after that. I guess it was fortunate that his apartment was close to mine. We stayed in his place and I could not count the number times I had an orgasm while he was making love to me.

Despite his skinny frame, his penis was really long and thick, and I enjoyed every moment when it was inside me and pleasuring me. Having his big penis inside me was one of the best feelings in the world.

I loved his slow yet hard thrusts and the way he held me in his arms. He had a strong grip, something you would not expect from a skinny man like him. I also loved his lips and his mouth, especially whenever he would use them to explore my body.

We continued hooking up on the following nights ahead but at the same time, I was also seeing other guys – sometimes immediately after having sex with Saul. I just can’t get enough. But, nothing could beat Saul’s penis. There were many times when I would imagine the other men I was shagging were Saul just to reach a really big orgasm.

Saul and I had the perfect illicit affair. I did not care if he hooked up with other women as long as he had time to spare to have sex with me with no strings attached. After our first 2 nights together, he gave me the keys to his apartment so I can freely go and visit him whenever I needed to be satisfied. I abused that opportunity to have sex with him as often as I want. It reached a point when I realized that  I was beginning to rely on him for a good time, but I did not care. After all, it was all for the sex and nothing more.

It was fun while it lasted. Our short yet memorable illicit encounters lasted until he had to leave already to go back to the United States. We never talked again after our last night together and after saying our last goodbyes. Saul was like an addiction. I immediately missed him and I started searching for other men who could fill the void that he had left. I knew I had to find other men who could surpass Saul’s skills in bed or I would not be able to feel satisfied. I looked for sexual encounters with people from the internet habitually, and I ended up dating two or more men every week.

The woman who gave me the greatest pleasure

Saul was undoubtedly the best penis I’ve ever had. And the best pussy, you ask? That would have to be a woman who actually pretended to be a man when she joined the dating site. I should have known from observation and from what I have been hearing from other internet users that not everything you see on the web is true. People lie about their gender and other aspects about themselves. But I didn’t care.

Her name was Veronica, a redhead with really pale skin and blue eyes. She had a few freckles spreading across her cheeks, crossing the upper bridge of her nose. She was very cute. She was a bit taller than me at 5’9” and she liked wearing high heels, which made her tower more over me. She was a waitress in a local pub, a place that also served as one of the more convenient meeting places for men I have met on the internet (it was discreet and the food was okay).

Veronica asked me to meet her in that pub. Her name was “Martin” when she first introduced herself as a man on the internet. Just imagine my surprise when this sexy lady approached me instead, and admitted that she was a lesbian looking for sex. I was surprised, but I did not have the urge to run away. There was just something about Veronica that made me want to experience what it was like making love to a pretty redhead like her.

So, the two of us made our way out of the pub and went to her place, just a couple of blocks from it. It was a small apartment but to me, it was very inviting. We had a few glasses of wine first as she told me about herself. It was pretty boring. I never shared anything about myself throughout the duration of the conversation. As she spoke, all I could ever think about was how sex was going to be like with her.

I observed the contours of her body from her breasts down to her legs. I imagined the things that I could do with her. I was immediately turned on at the thought of her red lips trailing kisses along my body, and her tongue licking that sensitive spot between my legs.

But before I could make her do those things, I had to make her stop talking first. I put my glass on the red coffee table and slowly leaned forward to give her a kiss. That shut her up. I was there for some lovin’, not babblin’.

It was first time to ever make love a woman, but I never held back. The mere touch of her fingers were enough to hurl my sanity overboard. Her lips were softer than a man’s, her scent much more strong. Her touch was gentler, which kept me begging for more. The way she giggled every time I nibbled on her skin, lips, earlobe, or breast just sent blood rushing to my wet pussy. She returned the favour, fondling my breasts or my vagina ever so gently. I never knew a woman could get me sooo aroused.

Veronica was a wonderful lover. We continued to hook up continuously for about five months, but of course I still had illicit encounters with men when I was not seeing her. However, I started to grow tired of the woman-on-woman action. I needed to be fucked hard.

Besides, Veronica got a little clingy. I realized that she was actually looking for a long-term commitment.  That was when I bailed out and refused to see her again without explaining why. She was upset when we parted ways, and I never saw her again.

In all my illicit encounters, I never told anybody where I lived, where I worked, what I did with my life, and my contact details. Doing so would be like inviting trouble to my doorstep – especially when it comes to sex with married men who have jealous or psycho wives, and of course, the clingy and stalker-like types.

Veronica introduced me to another side of myself that I never knew I had. I have had illicit encounters with other women after her…and I am still actively having sex with women. These lesbian encounters may not have been as pleasurable as my encounters with that pretty redhead, but they were enough to satisfy my immediate needs for sex especially when a man was unavailable. I just have to have my fill.

(TO BE CONTINUED)